The Perils of People Pleasing
Dear friend,
Tonight is a full moon. She’s smiling. Illuminating the cloud cover. Setting a goal or an intention on a full moon has a power to it. You focus on bringing your intention into the world. You can check in on the ground covered when the moon is full again.
For many people who follow a spiritual path, often we are recovering from a compulsion to take on responsibility for the happiness of others. The mistaken belief is that if we do that for others they will do the same for us. But often it doesn’t work out that way.
If we take on other people’s problems as if they are our own then we rob the other of the opportunity to grow.
To realise the power within.
Not to say that we ought not to be helpful.
Or that it doesn’t feel good to extend a helping hand.
But if you find yourself feeling depleted or frustrated, maybe you are giving too much?
Each one of us needs to learn that we can meet our challenges.
The twist in the tale is that the ones we take responsibility for are rarely satisfied.
If we take on too much our feelings of being burdened are felt by the other.
Yes.
We are here for one another.
But each one is a centre of power.
Like so much in our lives it’s a matter of holding up a mirror to ourselves. Looking within, intuiting when we are people pleasing and stepping back.
Allowing the other to discover their power can be the most respectful attitude to adopt.
Till tomorrow
Love
Mikey