The Power of Apology

Dear Friend,

There’s a part of the British psyche where you’re apologizing all the time, just for existing. You know the way Hugh Grant did it in his posh way. You have other styles depending on your mental map.

You hear “sorry” a lot if you listen for it.

That’s not what I mean though.

We all have our moments when we’re wrestling the false self. You get seduced into attacking to defend.

Everyone has it in them to snap.

Or get it wrong.

Or vent emotions.

You may have learned to go for the jugular. The soft places in those most meaningful to you.

An apology that isn’t easy to give may be of the most worth. Certainly more than a:

“I’m sorry you see it that way.”

“I’m sorry if you found that upsetting.”

Our dad fell out with his father, our grandad, over something neither of them would discuss.

Even when his father was on his deathbed.

Not even then.

To apologize, though, takes fumbling for the kind of words that don’t come easy.

They are priceless, though.

For their rarity.

And beauty.

Till tomorrow,

Love,
Mikey